“Calling” – I’m not crazy about the term because it produces a lot of angst for some people. I admit I have used it many times for lack of a better word, but in recent years I have grown tired of how it is thrown around.
It creates unnecessary pressure for those who may wonder if they even have one. For some, it can become a frustrating quest and a breeding ground for feelings of inadequacy. I have encountered people who, because they do not have a job, title or position that is focused on a specific cause, struggle with feeling “less than” those who do.
That is partly due to how this term is used. I have heard countless times in church, read many times in books and articles that it is important for everyone to “find their calling” as if it is hidden somewhere.
It is true that there are some people whose passions are very focused and translate into a job or position in life which makes it clear to everyone else what their “calling” is. For example, I have a dear friend whose passion is to spread joy. She has found a way to do that by bringing hula-hoops around the world and sharing the gospel and love of God everywhere she goes. It is pretty evident that she has “found her calling.” When you meet her, passion exudes from her. (Her name is Carissa, and this is her website – you should check it out!)
On the other hand, there are many people who are using their God given gifts and passions to impact the world around them positively without a title or position or what would be considered a “calling” in the sense that it is so often used. Their “calling” is much more subtle than a missionary for example.
My husband is a great case in point. (Fortunately he doesn’t read my blog on a regular basis because he’d probably kill me for using him as an example!) He is a business owner who uses his knowledge, his love of people and his passion for excellence and success in order to provide security and provision for his family and employees. Is his “calling” to run a quick-service restaurant? No, not really. It is difficult to sum up his calling. But every day he influences his team members by being an example of a godly business leader. Future leaders are learning from him. He has been an example of a faithful husband and father to me and our children. He helps advise me as I lead the non-profit For the Girls International. His scope of influence is far and wide, but he is not in the ministry and would not really even consider himself to have a “calling” in the sense that we hear it used.
Some may see what I do with For the Girls International and surmise that my calling is to encourage women. That is true, but if you asked my husband, he would tell you my calling is also to be his wife and mother to our children. On a day when I am encouraging someone suffering from depression one might think my calling was to counseling or coaching but it is just part of what I believe my “calling” is. I am wildly passionate about all of those things and believe they are all part my calling.
So, in the broader sense of the term I would define my calling to be this:
My calling is to be led by the Holy Spirit daily, ever becoming who He has made me to be, allowing what I “do” to naturally evolve from there.
It’s really just a matter of semantics but sometimes words can confuse people and cause unnecessary pressure. I would really like to hear your take on the whole idea of having a “calling.” Please share your thoughts in the comments.
December 3, 2013 at 2:56 pm
My goodness – this is profound. Great read. Solid and informative.
Christian Farris | Lead Pastor
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December 3, 2013 at 9:09 pm
Thanks Pastor C! Always value your feedback 🙂
December 3, 2013 at 3:28 pm
I could not agree with you MORE Tracey! I am reading an excellent book right now called Courage and Calling by Gordon T. Smith (http://www.amazon.com/Courage-Calling-Embracing-God-Given-Potential/dp/0830835547).
This book has really helped me let go of the preconceived notions about what “calling” is “supposed” to look like. He describes 3 kinds of callings:
1. The call all humans have to love God, love His people and submit to Him always.
2. The overall purpose that God has for us while on earth.
3. Daily events that happen like taking the kids to school or offering help to a friend in need that come up regularly.
The book and what most people think of when they hear “calling” mostly addresses #2. He also talks about how our callings may morph throughout our lives, but are maintained all the way up until our dying breath. They’re not just a cool job until retirement.
I know a little bit about that crazy-passionate girl, Carissa you mentioned! Her gumption to go out and take what God has for her, whatever it may be, has inspired me to do the same for myself. God wants to do amazing things with all of us for His kingdom. We just have to believe it!
December 3, 2013 at 9:11 pm
Sarah,
I will definitely check that book out! Love all his points. So true that we are “called” to specific assignments during specific seasons of our lives. Love watching you grow into all you were created to be…God has some pretty cool assignments for you – of that I am sure…Love you girlie~
xo
December 3, 2013 at 6:00 pm
Great blog! Thanks for sharing… I have passions and still in pursuit to understanding my “calling”. I suppose there are seasons for all things. I’m encouraged by your post and I totally agree about Carissa- what a phenomenal lady.
December 3, 2013 at 9:13 pm
Stacia…yes to the part about the seasons! And sometimes we are called to do more than one thing at once which can keep us on our toes for sure. I am glad to hear that you were encouraged by the post…you are someone who clearly seeks to be doing whatever God wants you to and you can’t go wrong with that. One day at a time! Love ya!
December 3, 2013 at 9:25 pm
I couldn’t agree more. Great talking to you today!
December 3, 2013 at 10:34 pm
Jane…Yes great to catch up. Our conversation inspired this blog…it’s clear that you are right where you are meant to be in this season!
December 3, 2013 at 9:55 pm
Wow Tracey! You always say what I have thought. I am just not great at expressing it. I was just thinking about this the other day. When I was younger I never felt “lost” or wondered what my “calling” or “purpose” was. I knew what I wanted in my life and I was going for it. Then when I decided to faithfully surrender myself to God and my “calling” completely changed. I discovered over the past 6 years that the more I allowed God to mold me that we do not have a “calling”. Our “calling” is simply our placement in the process of accomplishing God’s will. We may perceive, for example, that a house wife is not perusing her “calling”. But in reality she may be following God’s will for her life to accomplish the bigger picture that we do not see yet. Since the death of my 3 yr old (Paige) I have realized this even more. I hope this even made any sense.. Like I said I am not so great at expressing what I am trying to say. I could go on about this for many paragraphs, but I will spare you. I would also like to check out that book too!
December 3, 2013 at 10:38 pm
Alyssa,
You made perfect sense and I think moms struggle with this a lot because of pressure to have some kind of identity outside of being a mother. I actually was going to write about that and may follow up with a blog about that particular subject. Thank you for your feedback!! Walking through all that you have is enough of a calling for the rest of your life ~ you will find so many opportunities because of your story to shine his love and testify of his ability to sustain us through all of the pitfalls this life throws at us. Press on!! Love to you!
December 6, 2013 at 11:22 pm
I was thinking about what you wrote and I do know that we are created to contribute “live” works in this world. “Live works” are those that the Holy spirit prompts, moves AND finishes. The interesting thing is they are already given before time, these live works, so it’s more about letting God heal the blockages to them than trying to find them. It’s like the first half of our lives are spent covering over what God made and the second half of our lives are spent trying to get it back. We have to know how to appropriate what God accomplished on the Cross to restore our original identities so we can sing our own song, the one He created within us. The ongoing practice of confession, repentance and forgiveness is the only thing that will heal and restore the human spirit to it’s proper identity and destiny.