One of the greatest games my mom ever taught me to play was the Glad Game.
She adopted it from a character from the 1913 book Pollyanna. Pollyanna’s philosophy revolved around this “game” that she learned from her father. The object of the game is to find something to be glad about in every situation. It’s ironic really because in the book the Pollyanna’s Glad Game was put to the test when she was hit by a car and lost the use of her legs. I’m sure that my mother had know idea when she read it that she would suffer a similar fate.
When life throws challenging and difficult situations it can be very hard to keep “playing” but my mom was the Queen of the Glad Game. She could find always find something to be glad about. We used to make fun of her for it but now I am so grateful because it has shaped how I respond to life.
As some of you reading this know, my mom was traumatically brain injured in a car accident in 1991. It left her almost completely immobile, unable to speak, eat on her own or do anything for herself. She required 24 hour care and so she lived in a nursing home for almost 20 years before she died this past September.
Yet, when we would visit her we were always greeted with a big smile and she would type out happy encouraging little messages on a machine. We could print out those messages and they have become treasures now that she is gone from us.
My mom played the Glad Game right up until the end of her life on earth.
Mother’s Day could potentially be a tough day for me but I chose to play the Glad Game in honor of my mom this year. In the morning when I woke I realized that I am glad that her suffering is over. I am glad that this Mother’s day instead of laying in a nursing home she is free and whole in heaven. That is something to be happy about.
I invited my sisters over with their families. And I was so GLAD they could come. We had tea and I got to enjoy my brand new nephew and all of the family. My step mom and mother-in-law were there and I am GLAD I have them in my life.
It is a temptation to dwell on the negative when your heart hurts but there is joy when we can choose to find something to be grateful for and glad about. That was part of the legacy my mom left me and I am so glad she did 😉
Think about some things in your life that you can be glad about today. Feel free to share them in the comments. Sometimes it’s good to say it out loud.
I know it’s a day late…but love and blessings to all the moms. It is by far the hardest but most rewarding job there is!